Divorce or separation can become a serious stressor in a person’s life. Particularly if there are children involved in the dissolving relationship. This article is intended to answer the question of whether you can effectively co-parent with your ex.
Can you effectively co-parent with an ex?
The reciprocal interactions of each parent is what influences the effects of co-parenting. With a lot of communication, empathy, and patience you will be able to co-parent in an efficient manner.
In order to effectively co-parent it is imperative to maintain stability in the child’s life. One way to do this is to ensure both parents enforce the following:
● The rules: Rules regarding the completion of homework, curfew, and activities that are strictly forbidden should be common between both households.
● Disciplinary action: If the child should break a rule, discipline needs to be upheld in both households.
● Daily schedules: Both households need to ensure the child maintains similar schedules as far as homework, meals, and bedtime.
Benefits of Effective Co-Parenting
Effective co-parenting allows both parents to have an active role in their child’s life. Although you are no longer living together as a family unit, it is imperative the family remains intact.
Keep ill-Feelings to Yourself
In order for co-parenting to work effectively, each parent needs to set aside ill feelings. This way the child gets a chance to remain close to both parents. Never talk bad about the other parent when your child is present.
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Maintain a balance between parents to effectively co-parent. One parent cannot be too stern nor too lenient. Parents need to communicate, show empathy, and have a whole lot of patience.
The key to a successful co-parenting experience is communication. Both parents must work together in an amicable manner. By doing this, the child will grow up feeling secure and loved.
● How do you co-parent with a toxic ex?
This can be an extremely difficult situation should the other person be toxic; however, it can be done if you follow these tips:
1. Make it known what’s important to you to the other parent.
2. Become familiar to any triggers your ex has for negative feelings.
3. Only talk to your ex with regard to your child’s welfare.
4. Avoid negative talk about your ex around the child(ren).
5. Promote your child(ren)’s relationship with the parent.
● At what age does divorce affect children worst?
Typically, the worst age group is between 6 and 10. Age 1-2 is the best age and affects children least because they don’t feel they were the cause of the separation.
The best advice when co-parenting is to keep an open mind. Always remember, the two of you are working towards the same goal. That goal is to ensure your mutual child has a childhood that is happy.
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