Think back to your wedding day. It was a beautiful ceremony, and everyone there was happy and well-wishing. Contrast that with your divorce. You’re all alone with the person you’d thought you’d spend forever with in front of a judge with other strangers watching your dirty laundry spill out in court.
While divorce can be a very nasty, painful process for some, it doesn’t have to be for you.
No, it won’t be as wonderful as your wedding day. However, if you can develop a solid relationship with your ex throughout the process, it could have some benefits.
Here are a few reasons you’ll want to make sure you and your ex are on the same team when going through a divorce.
You Could Get an Uncontested Settlement
Navigating a divorce doesn’t have to be as complicated as most couples make it. The more you agree on outside the courtroom, the less time you have to spend in it having a judge, arbitrator, or mediator helping you make decisions.
In some instances, you may be able to get an uncontested divorce, particularly if you both agree that it’s time to call it quits. If you want your divorce to go smoothly, it’s ideal to have open lines of communications with your soon-to-be-ex so that you can settle on debts and assets equitably and ensure a fair parenting schedule.
Choosing cooperation can save you and your ex plenty of headaches and money on legal fees in the long run.
Minimizes the Chances of an Ongoing Battle
Whether someone in the marriage broke the vows and chose infidelity or the marriage simply has irreconcilable differences, there is usually a high level of resentment by the time you get to court. The courtroom can become a high-stakes battleground full of “who done it” instead of a mutual end to something that contractually is no longer working.
If you and your ex can manage to keep the emotions out of the courtroom and focus on divvying up what’s shared between you, the divorce process can be much quicker and pain-free.
Allows for Peaceful Custody of the Children
Of all the matters that you’ll have to address, custody of the children could become the messiest. While you can split assets and liabilities or have a judge do so for you, it gets more complicated when children are involved.
As long as both of you are not a threat to the children, you’ll both be in a position to have shared custody of the children. What type of custodial arrangements that will exist between you two will usually be decided by the judge.
If there is one good reason to have a good relationship with your ex, it is for the sake of the children.
Even if things didn’t work out between you and your ex; you should definitely try to establish a good relationship if you have children together. Peaceful cooperation in the divorce proceedings is a luxury that most couples don’t have. If you and your former partner can agree to mutual cooperation, especially for the children’s sake, your divorce will be much swifter and easier than most.
Keeps Assets from Being Handled by the Law
When couples fight out of spite, they tend to make their legal teams richer and the divorce process lengthier. At some point, a judge may have to make a final decision that may not be favorable to either side.
Instead of allowing your financial ecosystem to be determined by outsiders, it is in the best interest of you and your ex to be as cooperative as possible. This will ensure that your assets that are remaining stay in your own pockets rather than whittling away in legal fees.
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